This isn't a recipe. It's neither a strategy nor a plan
for getting love right. If you hear it like a recipe, like a
strategy or like a plan for getting love right, then you don't get it,
then you're missing the point of it. It's none of the above. It's an
at what's possible for love. The inquiry "What's possible for love?"
isn't found in the romance section of the bookstore.
Neither will you find it on so-called self-helpwebsites
touting "How to find your perfect love / soul mate". And you certainly
won't find it on the Billboard charts as the
cure for "Looking for love in all the wrong places ...".
This isn't because there are right places to look for
love. It's because in
there's no looking for love (that's a suggestion,
by the way, not a rule).
Here's why in
there's no looking for love: it's because love is where you're
coming from (as
may have said). Love is where you're looking from. In fact, love
comes from the youwho'slooking.
Gee! I hope you get that.
Life is simple. It's not complicated. But because we've
made our lives complicated (which we've done mostly by
then when Life's clues, pointers, and reminders appear simple,
we tend to discard them or discount their value. We're
convinced if it's valuable it's got to be
complicated. Because we discard and discount the simplicity of Life,
our lives don't
And our response to our lives not
is to become jaded and skeptical as our retaliation against, indeed as
our rage against our continual disappointment with the way
things occur for us.
The basis of love, the foundation, the platform without which I assert
there can be no love is
who I really am.
Don't merely accept this. Try it on for size. This is one of Life's
clues, pointers, and reminders which at first appears so simplistic
that we discard it or discount its value. We've progressively hidden
and covered this platform for love to the degree that there's now
plenty of agreement for another person out there (rather
who I really am)
being the critical ingredient for love. We've gone as far as culturally
boycotting the notion that love is
who I really am.
We've blanketed it with all kinds of screens - like
(arguably the most all time misunderstood notion about human beings
there is), so-called self-importance, and the like.
Who I really am,
which comes with
is none of the above. That's why when I say
like a rock", I say it's not a plan for getting love right. Rather,
of the wholeness, of the fullness, and of the completeness of the
Love coming from any other platform, especially a platform in which
another person out there is the critical ingredient for love,
towards becoming frantic, insecure, and fleeting. Not
like a rock, it's no wonder that's what's left for love. Not
like a rock, it's no surprise that's all that's available for love. Not
like a rock, it's no mystery that's all that's possible for love -
which even in its dire scarcity is the very best that's
possible for love.
like a rock, you're loving like a
You're ebbing, you're flowing, you're bubbling, you're calming, you're
you're embracing, you're releasing, you're delighting in being with and
you're delighting in being away from and you're delighting in again
being with people and with Life itself. Ensure you have this model as
at what's possible for love, rather than as a recipe or as a strategy
or as a plan for getting love right. You've already tried the latter.
Tell the truth about it: you already know love doesn't