"Don't speak negatively about yourself, even as
a joke.
Your body doesn't know the difference. Words are energy and cast
spells, that's why it's called spelling. Change the way you speak
about yourself and you can change your life. What you're not changing,
you're also choosing."
... Bruce Lee, martial artist
This essay,
Relating To Source,
is the tenth in an open group on
Source:
I am indebted to Mark Spirtos and to Rose Carman who inspired this
conversation, and to Harry Rosenberg who contributed material.
Transformation is a gift, an extraordinary gift, a gift sourced by
people (that's where it comes from: its source is people). And a source
person is someone who sources people to source
transformation.
Being around a source
person
(tersely
said:
being around
source)
is unlike
being around
any other kind of person anywhere.
That's an assertion that's likely to be discovered to be true by just
about everyone everywhere. No, it's neither a rule and nor is it a
belief. Rather, it's just a what's so. But I'd be hard-pressed
to say why it's true for so many. It just is. Some things
in life are just "just is" - indeed, some of the
greatest
things in life are just "just is".
To
be around source
is to discover who we really are (we discover who we really are, in
conversations for transformation with source). If you ask people who
you can tell demonstrate the ability to be who they really are
as their natural
Self-expression,
how they discovered being this way like a possibility, the
vast
majority would admit / 'fess up to something like "While being in a
conversation with (source), I discovered / suddenly got who I might be
really like a possibility. It just ... popped.".
As
stoopidly
trite and simplistic as it might sound,
access
to our true nature travels this way. Someone speaks it from their life.
We listen. We hear it. We get it. Then it establishes itself in our
lives. Why does it work this way? I don't know. It just does (as a
reminder, transformation and our
access
to it
don't fit into our
categories).
Wait: if everyone gets it from source, then who did the source we got
it from, get it from? One answer to that question, is:
from true source. True source is that rare, remarkable
kind of human being, someone who intentionally generates a context in a
conversation for transformation out of nothing, a context /
conversation in which we discover who we really are. True source may
or may not have gotten it from someone else - or may have gotten
facets of it from someone else / different people.
So another important part of the answer to the question, is: ... and
true source may have simply figured it out for themself
... or ... true source may have been in the right place at
the right time for
Life itself
to reveal it to them ... or ... true source may have
put themself in the right place at the right time for
Life itself
to reveal it to them. Regardless of which-ever way it
happens / happened,
getting it
is the defining
moment of
truth
for true source, the genesis of a new possibility for
being.
A good friend of mine (an extraordinaryworld-leader,
and one of my most trusted
coaches)
and I, were wondering about (batting the idea around) what it's like to
be
in love
with true source - like: is it feasible to be
in love
with true source in the same way as we're ordinarily
in love
with someone we relate to? No it's not. Being
in love
with true source, is unlike being in any other relationship. Being
in love
with true source, is a relationship around which all
parties (including all of its
observers)
are called to be who they really are all the time with
full integrity.
None of that other reactivated stuff which commonly shows
up in ordinary non-source relationships, is appropriate here. It just
doesn't work. It doesn't fit. Try as we might, it simply doesn't /
won't take root in it. All our attempts to manipulate it, get cut off -
and fail.
I've begun gauging the sheer extraordinariness of being in relationship
/ being
in love
with true source. And I've discovered I can't be in relationship with
true source (which is to say, I can't be
in love
with true source) as
"little boy"
(a reactivatable, needy identity from my past). It just plain doesn't
work that way - which is to say I can't make it work that
way. I can only be in relationship /
in love
with true source and make it work, as
"Big Man"
(a possibility invented like a stand for the future).