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Baby
goslings paddle after their Canada goose
mother
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Without righteously implying this is the solution,
consider
the following four-part schematic which
gets
to
the heart
of the
simplest
of
causes
of such pernicious problems. Notice we're thrown, by
the way,
to dismiss
simple
views
of complex issues. I
invite
you to set aside that thrown-ness for
now,
to
get
beyond it, and to
consider
this
view
anyway. Be
open-minded.
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1)
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Temporarily overlooking all the
automaticity
that's involved,
children
love
their
parents
(or whomever they
identify
their
parents
to be) from birth,
possibly
from even sooner.
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2)
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Partly because they
love
them, mainly because they don't
know
better, they learn it all from them, that is to
say
they
identify
with everything they do, taking it on as their own;
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3)
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Parents
have both
workable
as well as unworkable behavior
(parents
are
human beings,
yes?).
Children,
not
knowing
any better,
driven
by
love,
don't differentiate between their
parents'
workable
behavior or their unworkable behavior when they
identify
with it.
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4)
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What
gets
in
the way
of adults purging unworkable behavior like depression etc, is
one, it's entrenched, and two, since it was
originally
taken on out of
love
for their
parents,
purging it occurs as a betrayal of their
parents
and of their
love
for them ie as a violation of the
automaticity.
They're stuck with unworkability. It's held in place, ironclad,
by
love.
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A solution ie a
breakthrough
comes from
simply
differentiating between behavior that
works,
and behavior that doesn't
work,
then
looking
to see if you're willing to drop the behavior that doesn't
work,
regardless of its
origin.
That's a pragmatic solution, not just for depression but for a
plethora of unworkable inherited behaviors.
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