Transformation
is a
shift,
a
shift
whose
nature
can be described in many different
ways.
One
way
of describing the
nature
of this
shift
ie the from and the to of it, if you will, is
to distinguish between its before, being powerless over the
circumstances
in life (and having reasons, explanations, and justifications for being
powerless over the
circumstances
in life), and its after, having
power
and
mastery
over them (and having a
choice
and a say over them). There are arguably
other more esoteric descriptions of
transformation,
and even other more intelligent descriptions. But the
bottom line is if whatever's described as
transformation
doesn't make
power
and
mastery
available, that probably ain't it, and not
worth
much anyway.
Being in
conversations for
transformation
is not for the fainthearted. It's not so-called
self-help.
It won't help you. And it's not designed to. Look: the
Self
doesn't need any help.
It's OK the way it is.
So are you.
You're OK
the way
you are - although sometimes you may say it doesn't look like it. You
don't have to do anything to be OK. You're OK
the way
you are (you're also, by
the way,
OK
the way
you aren't - which is a deeper cut at this assertion). So
when you're in a
conversation for
transformation,
the ideas which become available ie the ideas which come forth, don't
(and shouldn't) pertain to helping you or to making you OK. Rather they
pertain to
what's possible,
to what's important, to what matters to people. Furthermore they
inspire the
commitment
to taking
action
on what's important ie on what matters.
If you say describing
transformation
in this
way,
isn't necessary ie if you say it's a given ie it's an obvious,
then be careful: you may just be preaching to the choir. In
the world
out there (if you will), there's a prevalent
way
of regarding
the work of transformation
as lumped into the
self-help
body of knowledge. Now look: there's nothing wrong with the
self-help
body of knowledge. If anything, it's one of the most enduring and
expansive bodies of knowledge in the history of
humanity.
Almost instinctively, we know there's something else
possible.
The
mis-interpretation
around this, is: help is needed to
get
it. The
self-help
body of knowledge thrives on this.