I
eschew
mind-reading. Look: I don't read minds. But that's not
to say it's not possible that others can read minds.
Maybe they can. Maybe they can't. I really don't know. It's just
not a skill that's presented itself to me to develop. That said,
there's a potent skill I do have: I can
listen.
And it's a skill that has presented itself to me
develop. When I
listen
another, I experience them for myself. And when I key off the
experience I have of them for myself, I gain a reliable insight
into what they are experiencing. To call that ability mind-reading
(as some may) isn't
rigorous
enough for my liking. It only qualifies as
good enough for
jazz
because it blurs the line between mind and experience. And when we
blur the line between mind and experience, we risk blurring the
possibility of authentic, thrilling,
transformed
friendship.
So when the
invitation
is extended to me to
be with
him while
he works
(more than an
invitation,
it's a gift, a
privilege
really) I don't actually know what to expect. I don't even know
what form it will take. I'm shown into his suite. I leave my tote
and jacket near the door where it'll be easy to find them when I
leave, then I turn and, opening my arms, run to greet
him. There's nowhere in
the universe
I'd rather be right now than alone with this man in this suite
right here.
We speak through
bright
smiles and a few warm
tears,
catching up on whatever critical
sharing
dares to
break through
and grab a front seat to all the unbridled joy. When the
perfunctory opening round of greetings ends as naturally as it
began,
he
walks
over to his dual-monitor laptop computer and
starts working
as I wordlessly stand (and sometimes
sit),
being with
him while
he works
- just as the
invitation
laid out. Nothing else is going on.
He's working
/ I'm
being with.
That's not a typo. It's not "I'm
being with
him.". It's now
terser:
"I'm
being
with"
- period. Nothing else. It's totally and utterly mesmerizing. As I
said, I'm not a mind-reader. And yet the thing I get
listening
him, is: he has the
quietest
mind.
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