Looking
deeper into this anomaly, the name on my
nametag
is simply
how
I like you to label me ie
how
I suggest you address me. But we all know there's a
vast
chasm of difference, an abyss in fact, between
whatever label you address me with, and
who I really am.
And for the most part in our daily interactions with people, we
don't distinguish between the two. If I ask you
"Who are you?",
your first response without further
consideration
is likely to be "I'm Maggie" or "I'm Rod" - which illustrates
how
inept we are in distinguishing
who we really are
for people
(the truth
for the most part, is we're even
blind
to
who we really are
for ourselves, yes?).
And this is really the gist of this
conversation:
the way
we deploy
language
in our everyday situations (in other
words
the way we deploy
language
in our social etiquettes in these everyday situations)
doesn't readily allow for us
expressing
who we really are.
So whatever we label ourselves as (ie whatever we have appear on
our
nametags)
becomes, for all
intents
and purposes,
who we are
- not only for other people but for ourselves as well.
Now here's the thing: as long as this distinction has been made ie
as long as we've now brought this distinction into the light and
examined it
closely,
you're
free
to address me as whatever's on my
nametag,
and that's
perfectly
acceptable to me. But
who am I
really? By that I mean
who am I
like a space? like a
commitment?
like a
stand?
like an impossible promise? Wouldn't some or all of
whatever they are, be more accurate and more honest to
put on my
nametag
(it would admittedly have to be a much larger
nametag,
yes?) so you could really know
who I am?
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